7 Traits of a Successful Person
How do you define success? Everyone has their own measure and definition of success. For me, success is living a life with purpose, where I have the freedom to do what I love and independence to focus on what brings me the most fulfillment (which for me are my husband and dog, family and friends, wellness and business). To achieve my definition of success, I have pinpointed 7 character traits that I feel have helped me accomplish major goals in my life.
When doing anything that matters in life, the stakes are always high, and thus disappointment can hit that much harder. After 2 ½ years of running a business, I can definitely say I have been through some tough situations that could have easily broken my will and caused me to give up. However, over time, I realized it was imperative for me to adopt a conscious positive attitude if I was to make it as a business owner and achieve the success I longed for. This quote by Chris Swindoll sums up the power of a positive attitude perfectly. "Attitude is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, education, money, circumstances, success and failures, than what other people think, say, do. It is more important than appearance, ability, or skill. It will make or break a business, a home, a friendship, an organization. The remarkable thing is I have a choice everyday of what my attitude will be. I cannot change my past. I cannot change the actions of others. I cannot change the inevitable. The only thing I can change is attitude. Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it."
I believe that success can be achieved with the simplest of actions. Reliability is so important, yet often a quality that is hard to come by. When I find vendors who are reliable, they immediately go to the top of my list to recommend to clients. Simply writing back emails in a timely fashion, showing up to meetings (on time!), not cancelling meetings last minute, and following through on promises will pave the way to success.
3. Sense of Commitment
Have you ever had a project or goal that, when you first begin, you are so committed to, but when the excitement wears off you end up not following through on? It happens to the best of us. If you really want something, you have to commit to . . . . well . . . . commit! I have had so many people ask how I write a blog every week, where I find the time, and my answer is that I have made the decision to just do it. In the last couple months I really wanted to get my buns make to the gym and to meditate every day. After some procrastination, I finally had a little talking to with myself to just do it. Now after you finally do it, you have to make friends with your willpower to maintain longevity of your goal. If you are able to make your goal a routine and non negotiable, the odds of success are in your favour. Just as a side note, if you fall off the bus, it doesn’t mean you can get back on!!
When I say creativity, I don’t necessarily mean artistically inclined, but more so possessing a strong sense of imagination, innovation, and originality. For example, when I began Blush + Bowties, I didn’t want to copy what everyone else was doing, I wanted to forge my own path and develop my own system to approach wedding planning. Did I find inspiration from my peers? Of course!! But ultimately I wanted to curate a business that at the core was a reflection of my authentic voice and style. From what I have witnessed, the most successful people are those who innovate, create and dare to break convention. As Todd Henry so poignantly states: “We have to make choices to deviate from our influences and be bold and unique."
5. Willingness to Collaborate
I believe that success doesn’t come by doing it alone. Many of my most successful moments have come with collaborations. Working with others has strengthened my ability to listen and to not be married to ideas. When I conceptualize style shoots, as much as I have a vision in my mind of what I want it to look like, sometimes on the day an element just doesn’t work and being able to collaborate with those contributing, listening to their ideas, and ultimately creating something together always ends with the most successful results.
I am a big believer in you get back what you put into the world. This belief is a comfort to me when life gets crazy and hard. For me, I only want the best for my clients and to plan their weddings to the best of my ability. I strive to be kind, open, and honest with those I work with. At the end of the day, I believe this mentality and mandate will result in a successful business and happy life. Karma is a real . . . well you know what and without integrity I believe success is ultimately unattainable. If you aren't in it for the right reasons, no one will buy what you are selling.
As a youngster, I always had a desire to explore. My mom tells me I literally never stood still (which if you know me well makes a whole lots of sense). I remember climbing trees to see what the view would be from the top, reading poetry and trying to decipher the meaning, putting on an interesting piece of music and dancing my little heart out. I was so curious, so open to learning and growing. The most unfulfilling times in my life have been when I was settling, when I was stunting my curious nature. Luckily, my curiosity lead me to the avocation of wedding planner and business owner, to a place in my life when I have never felt more satisfied and successful. But the trick to it, is that my curiosity hasn’t stopped, on the contrary, it is stronger than ever. I am always thinking of new ideas for Blush + Bowties, design elements I want to explore, workshops I want to take, concepts for future style shoots. I believe my future success hinges on my curiosity and being open to exploring new avenues, to always be moving forward (while still celebrating what I have in the present). This mentality keeps my passion brewing and encourages a fresh look on what I love most in my life.
By Certified Wedding Planner Alexandra McNamara